The line between being sweet and aggressive is very, very thin, due to the fact that she can’t leave and she probably has to be nice to you because hey, that’s customer service — even though she might think you’re annoying and really want you to go away. Rather than, “I’m going to Café X since amazing sexy woman works there,” think, “I’m going to Café X because I’m hungry for a sandwich…and it would be nice to also see amazing sexy woman, too.” Even if you’re really thinking the former, telling yourself this will give you a less-desperate and not-as-inexplicably-obsessed-with-sandwiches air.Women really, really appreciate sweaty, testosterone-amped men leaving them alone in the midst of working out.
On the other hand, if she looks bored as shit and won’t turn down her music, let it go and move on to the next car. Now, meet her gaze and come up with a brilliant greeting that ensures she’ll talk to you .
But alas, I’m completely guilty of this Facebook faux pas, too.
(I’ve recently started crushing on the guy who won the Big Buck Hunter Championship and sent him a friend request—along with 1,235 other people.) But will I ever see him in real, non-Facebook life? Do it right: From the women I know who this has actually worked on (hallelujah for the socially-awkward, they do exist!
Striking up conversations with neighboring mats before and after class is also super-natural — unlike Dude who I recently encountered awkwardly running backwards in order to chat with Hot Girl on the treadmill next to him (she was not impressed).
Why it’s wrong: Driving while distracted by pretty ladies is dangerous, one.